The Digital Detox Episode
Let's make a pact to digital detox!
I've actually just recorded this whole entire podcast, thought about it and deleted it and I'm going to bring you something different.
I was talking about the changes that Boris announced this week, the going from 30 to 15 and how that's going to affect us all. I'm sitting there, and I'm just finding it difficult to put a positive spin on it and I felt that the podcast came off quite, doom and gloom. I know, that's how a lot of us are feeling right now but it's not what I want to give you.
I want to give you things that you can do now that can help, things that we can focus on that aren't all about COVID. So I've changed it up.
You know and I know, what he has said is his gutting for us all, the fact that it could be another six months is even worse. But I don't want to focus on that right now.
Let's Focus on YOU!
I want to focus on you, you as a person, you with where you are right now and how you are coping. So I have actually talked to a few colleagues of mine who are going to bring us some fantastic episodes over the next couple of weeks, I am going to be doing a health and wellness series for wedding vendors and today we're going to kick it off with the digital detox
It has decided now to actually open the heavens. So I don't know whether you can hear the rain in the background but we will continue.
Social media is one of those things that takes up an awful lot of our time, from what I've spoken about in previous weeks, posting and getting your social out there, etc, to the mindless scrolling that we all do. I think at this time, that mindless scrolling could be very much to our detriment. So I am advocating for a digital detox.
What does Digital Detox mean to you?
Now, this could mean many things to many different people. So specifically, I'm going to be looking at social media. But this could be, being on your phone, this could be YouTube, this could be TV, this could be sitting at your computer. It could be anything. But I am going to advocate for us to have a digital detox.
Now a digital detox, again, timings could be different for each of us, you might like 24 hours, it could be a whole weekend, you could look at doing a whole week, it is up to you. What would benefit you the most?
There is so much negativity to read online and if you are part of any of the groups that are out there to support wedding vendors, you will see a lot of doom and gloom in there as well as the positive things and I think it would be a really good thing for us just to take a break and be us.
Set a date
So choose a date for this digital detox. If you need to be on the computer for your work, it may not be practical to do a full digital detox during the week, we have the half term holiday coming up in October. So this might be a great time to do it because you might be looking to take that as a week holiday anyway. So you could run the digital detox across the week.
Or if you're just going to do it for the weekend, maybe you could go all in and just do no digital devices, no devices at all for the entire weekend.
This is about getting you in a better frame of mind. So you're not putting all of this the popular opinion, or all of these feelings from other people into your mind. You can sit in and sit with your feelings and understand how you're feeling about a situation rather than having it influenced by all these other people.
So 24 hours could be all you need to do this 24 hours might work for you but have a look. Have a look at what would you would feel comfortable with. I feel you can come off social media for an entire week without it being to your detriment.
We're going into a slower season for weddings as a general rule anyway, and taking a week off in October maybe for the half-term holidays, isn't going to be a bad thing and then you can come back with your marketing plan. Ready for that the latter part of the year.
Re-claim your Time
In doing this digital detox you're gonna get some time back and I would urge you to use for self-care, looking at things like journaling, meditating, getting some exercise, walking, just getting out there and doing something for yourself.
It is really good to talk to people about what it is that you're going through and whether that is to yourself, like I just did with the previous recording of this podcast, where I just went off on a complete tangent and went down a rabbit hole that I did not want to be in, but it helped me. It helped me to get it out, get out those feelings.
Then you have a chance to either just sit with those feelings and feel it because you know, we're entitled to feel bummed about what's going on, it's devastating. Or we have the opportunity to reframe it and look at other things that you can be doing with your time as we sit and wait for the what ifs and, and the wonders.
So plan the time that you would use for digital, plane it out so that you use it for something else that is going to be of benefit to you.
Scheduling is your friend
The other thing you can do if you just feel like ‘oh my god, I cannot come off of social media for a week.’ You can schedule your posts.
So schedule your posts, let people know that you are on hiatus, you know, you don't have to pretend that you're sitting behind the screen when you're not. Set the expectations.
Let everybody know that you're having a break but you want to share this photograph, or you want to share this tidbit or this positive affirmation or whatever it is. ‘I'm having a break this week, guys, but I wanted to let you know x y z’, so they're not going to expect responses from you.
So that's a way to keep your social media going even when you're not going to be fully present with it.
Take some time out
I feel like we could all do with a bit of a digital detox a day, maybe a full day where you don't listen to the news, you don't watch the news, you don't turn the TV on, you don't get on your social media, you don't get on your mobile phone unless it's to actually make a phone call or FaceTime somebody and have a coffee, that would be a brilliant thing for us all to do.
So I urge you, I urge you, I urge you to take at least a 24-hour full detox from the current situation.
And then maybe you extend it, maybe you'll introduce the TV back in, but you still stay off social for a couple of days. Maybe extend it to a full week but have a think about it guys.
This is the start of my self-care series. We started with a digital detox and next week, hopefully, fingers crossed we will have the lovely Catherine Chapman from Catherine Chapman Pilates and the Vitality Rooms coming to speak to us about how exercise can help us get in the right frame of mind and help us to stay a little bit more positive. So I hope you will join me next week.
This is episode 1 in our self-care mini series all the parts are listed below and as they become available they will become clickable so if they aren't it's likely the episode hasn't aired yet. Do take a listen to the series I have some amazing guests coming to share their expertise with us.
Part 1 ~ Digital Detox ~ You are here
Part 4 ~ Food for Thought with Victoria Bell